The Menacing Thought On Every Single Girl's Mind
My friend, Lisa* met a guy out last Saturday night. They
both work in advertising so they've done business together for the
past couple years. He seemed like a suitable date.
Suddenly, Lisa* started to feel confused and deluded. Lisa
was a victim of the "fake date".
We've all been there. We hope to talk about the meaning of
life over a candlelit dinner and instead we get business banter
over finger foods at the local dive.
A date should be like an '80s romantic comedy:
Guy asks girl out.
Girl blushes and says yes.
Guy picks girl up, presents her with flowers.
Guy pays for dinner.
Guy takes girl home, as both parties get nervous about the good
night kiss.
Girl anxiously waits for his call.
Now that's a date! My evenings with men don't follow that
script. My last "date" started with an instant message.
ALEX*: we can get some beeeeer this week maybe (Yes, he typed
5 e's.)
ME: YES, beer (I'm a fan.)
ALEX*: Maybe tonight? Then, the strip club. (I'm
pretty sure this was a joke.)
What's with the maybes? Is that a way for guys to be cute or
are they just playing it cool in case they get turned down?
Whatever happened to "If you're not busy on Friday night, do you
want to grab some dinner?"
The proposal was clearly more of a suggestion than an
invitation. Does it make it less official if it's done this
way?
Learn the correct way to ask a girl out.
Regardless of the bona fides of the whole thing, I obliged to
go. Here's how my romantic comedy went:
Girl goes to guy's office to wait for guy to finish work, falls
asleep on his couch for an hour.
Girl and guy drive separately to sports bar.
Girl and guy eat bar food and drink beer.
Guy pays for dinner.
Guy gives girl high five.
Girl can't wait to get home and watch reality TV.
It's no doubt the dating game has changed drastically from "going
steady" and exchanging letterman jackets. And so be it;
there's no need for titles or advertising in a relationship.
But all the rules and etiquette are out the window, leaving many
girls confused. Men are holding back, being ambiguous and, at
times, way too casual. Is rejection that painful that they
have to hide behind this new, casual style of dating? Guys,
stop taking the easy way out, man up and just ask for a date.
Here are some more
expert tips on asking someone out on a date.
Have you ever been on a "fake date"? Why do you think "dates"
have become so ambiguous?
Discuss!
* Names have been changed to protect identities
