Enemies and haters can be annoying and their comments and
insults can upset you. Learn how to deal with it...
Steps
- If you don't know why they hate you, ask them calmly and
nicely. If they are nasty to you or start swearing or being
violent, walk away and don't bother trying to talk to them again
until they have calmed down or until they talk to you nicely. Some
people can be given second chances to realize that you aren't
really a bad person and they have nothing to hate you for. But some
people just won't like you for their own sad reasons, so don't
waste your time fretting about why they don't like you.
- Ignore whatever they say. They are probably only insulting you
because they are jealous. No matter what they say, it can't offend
you unless you let it. Just remember that when they say something
nasty to you, they want you to react. So pretend you didn't hear.
Don't acknowledge them or give them any attention for it. If they
continue insulting you or bothering you in any way, walk away from
them. Don't look at them or talk to them; just walk away. After a
few times of you doing this they will probably get bored and stop
picking on you.
- Surround yourself with friends and people who like you for who
you are. These people will make you feel more confident about
yourself and you should realize that it doesn't matter what haters
say as long as you have good friends by your side.
- If they start being violent towards you or continue offending
you or upsetting you, and ignoring them is not helping, tell them
that their behavior is upsetting you and tell them that they have
no reason for it. If they still carry on, you will have to learn to
stop being upset by their comments and realize that whatever they
say is probably a lie.
- If you know why they hate you, be mature and apologize if it
was your fault. Holding grudges against people and not apologizing
can sometimes seem like the reasonable thing to do but in the end,
if its your fault, only you can fix it. Apologize to them
seriously, and if they don't accept it, there isn't much more you
can do than ignore them.