How To Find “The One” – And Keep Him!
Hello girls. We know why you’re here... so stop stamping your feet in frustration and yelling “I WANT A MAN!!” It’s time to get pro-active – ask yourself some no-nonsense questions, stop settling for sub-standard guys and take ten easy steps along the road to Mr Right...
1. Get over past mistakes...
Stop right there, lady. Before we go any further you need to ditch that emotional baggage. Whether you’re single and bitter or dumped and desperate, you can’t make someone else happy if you’re miserable. We all make mistakes – so learn from them. And don’t do it again!
· Are you over Mr Wrong?
· Feeling rejected?
· Is your ex still on the scene?
· Single and sick of it?
2. Figure out what you want...
It’s time to delve deep – and be honest. Develop a Mr Right Radar by settling on 5 absolute must-have qualities for your long-term partner (don’t waste your list on toned abs and smouldering eyes!) and don’t forget them when you meet a sleazy charmer. Do you want a soulmate or a practical partner? Toyboy, creative type, intellectual, man’s man or high earner? But don’t be scared to adjust your radar if Cupid strikes unexpectedly: they say love conquers all...
· Looking for your soulmate?
· Fancy a younger man?
· What would a personal ad say about you?
· What is this ‘relationship’ thing, anyway?
3. Look a million dollars without spending a million dollars...
It may sound shallow, but the old “look good, feel good” maxim rings true when you’re stuck in a rut. You don’t have to do anything drastic, but a little bit of pampering can work wonders for your self esteem. Visit a big department store for a free makeover, hit the gym or let your most-trusted hairdresser choose a sexy new hair-do for you – then wait for the compliments to roll in! When you’re radiating good vibes, blokes can’t help but notice.
· Bored of the way you look?
· Wish you were slimmer?
· Do blondes really have more fun?
· Lifeless hair? Fix it!
4. Get some balls!
Confident women are magnetic: men see them as sexier, more positive and less needy than most. But don’t panic if you’re more wallflower than woman – confidence is a learned skill, not a birthright. It’s easy to envy girls who ooze sex and self-assurance, but it’s almost as easy to become one – and it’s one hell of a turn-on for him and for you. Just remember that ‘confident’ is not the same as ‘loud and overbearing’, and ‘self-assurance’ is not the same as ‘ball-breaking bitch’!
· Make me more confident!
· Want men to approach you?
· Hate your body?
· Catch his eye on the way to work...
5. Ditch dating and get a life instead...
It’s one short step from dedicated dater to bunny boiler – so if dating has become your one and only hobby, it’s time to get a life. Romance is a meeting of minds, and guys dig girls who can talk about something other than themselves (fascinating as you are!). Think lateral – take up a new hobby, join a club, learn to cook, start a campaign, get creative... and get out of the house. When you’re passionate about something other than love, finding a like-minded man to share that passion with becomes a whole lot easier...
· Be a sexy chef...
· Work it, girl!
· Sow the seeds of love.
· How to manipulate men...
6. Impress him – and his mates...
Most blokes think women just aren’t as funny – or as fun – as their male mates, but get ready to prove them wrong. Use your feminine wiles and flirting skills to hold your own amongst the boys and leave them speechless... or wrapped around your little finger! It’s not about beer, lewd jokes and poker – it’s about being sexy, witty and staying one step ahead of the guys. Why not win some cash off them while you’re at it?
· Clueless flirt?
· Be a pool shark...
· Read his mind.
· Steal his beer money!
7. Weed out the liars and the cheats...
It’s a cliché, but good girls love bad boys, and bad boys love good girls... until the next one comes along. If you’re looking for no-strings sex, then have fun – because there’s nothing sexier than a scoundrel! But if you want to keep him without worrying where he is at night then remove the rose-tinted glasses and approach with caution. Learn to spot the liars and low-down dirty cheats before you fall for them and you’ll save yourself a lot of heartache and wasted time.
· Is he lying to you?
· Where did he really go last night?
· Spot a cheat CSI-style.
· Ready to share your man?
8. Know when he’s interested...
Sexual attraction is a minefield of secret signals and unspoken rules. You could be forgiven for feeling like you need a psychology degree to navigate the body language battlefield... Stop and consider how many times you may have walked away from a conversation unaware of his subtle flirtations – and how many times he might have been just as confused by you. Take the bull by the horns and make yourself understood: it’s not the 1940s, lady, and guys love a girl who’s upfront and into them.
· Is he attracted to you?
· Grab those horns!
· Ask him out – we dare you.
9. Be a sexy minx!
They say men go ga-ga for a woman who’s a mother in the kitchen and a no-holds-barred minx in the bedroom. Sounds like a tall order to us... so ditch the pots and pans and focus on the fun side. Open your mind, grab a copy of the Kama Sutra, rent some steamy movies, put together a saucy soundtrack and up your sex-factor by mastering a couple of choice moves that are guaranteed to get him hot and bothered. Let your imagination run wild... and let the local take-out take care of dinner! You’ll have better things to do.
· Get him revved up...
· Dirty talk for good girls (and boys)
· Dance like Dita Von Teese
· Feeling really adventurous?
10. Make yourself more than a one-night stand...
The move from ‘notch on the bedpost’ to newlywed is a complicated one. The super-hot girl he lusts over now is rarely the woman he wants to bear his children... Yes, when it comes to marriage and reproduction (or even long-term relationships), it’s double standards for them and a major headache for us. Time to show those poor, misguided, out-dated men the error of their ways: not every sexy minx is shallow, ‘dearly beloved’ is not dowdy, two-dimensional women are BORING and you – yes you – can be fun, funny, sensitive and seductive. He’ll be astonished – and ecstatic!
· Sex on the first date?
· Are you girlfriend material?
· Are you falling for him?
· Pop the question!
That’s it. Ten pearls of wisdom to help you on your man-hunt.