You don't need to look like Brad Pitt or drive a Mercedes to
sweep a girl off her feet. Those things, by themselves, will never
work on a woman who is really worth courting. Here's how to let
that special girl you've never talked to know that she's
appreciated, without being creepy.
Steps
- Strike up a conversation. If you haven't met her yet, find
something unique about her or the situation the two of you are in
and say something about it. If she's a friendly person this should
give you enough to talk about until you can start asking her
questions to get to know her better.
- Find something about her that is truly special. Does she have
anything about her that is unique? A subtle little quirk or feature
that you find endearing, but that no one else seems to notice?
Let
her know that you think she's special without expecting anything (a
phone number, a date) in return. If this girl is really interesting
to you, there should be something far from the common that you
notice. If she's good looking, she probably gets several
compliments a day, so offer her one that is as unique as you
believe she may be, like mentioning something about her
personality. Here are some examples:
- "Hi, I don't mean to make you feel weird or anything, but
you've just got the prettiest freckles I've ever seen."
- "Excuse me, but I can't walk out of here without telling you
that you have amazing eyes."
She'll probably smile, say thank you, look away, and maybe even
blush. Remember that even if ultimately, it doesn't work out,
you've at least made her day by giving her a true compliment.
Offer
her your company, and walk away. That is, right before you leave,
give her your phone number or screen name, or offer a time and a
place to meet, and let her know that if she chooses not to take you
up on your offer, you'll never bother her again. Don't give her
a chance to accept or reject you. Make your offer and run.
Give her a chance to think about it by herself, and wonder
"Hmmm...I wonder what he's like." If you do this
confidently, she'll feel compelled by her
curiosity to get to know you better, and she won't feel like she's
being pressured or chased. Also, the fact that she might never see
you again will encourage her to follow up on any glimmer of hope
she has about you being the guy of her dreams.- Don't look back. If she doesn't call or show up, leave her
alone. She's not interested, and if that ends up being the case,
don't take it personally. However, if she does call you or
meet with you, you've probably swept her off her feet! The rest
depends on chemistry and compatibility. Good luck!
- Remember its never about the looks just the impression you made
for the first time that will win her over.
- If she looks down then looks back up, smile at her! It usually
means you flattered her!
- Dont talk about your ex's or problems to her. let her cry her
heart out to you no matter how boring it is. sometimes all a girl
needs is a shoulder to cry on and sometimes thats all you can
be.
Tips
- Here's an example of what you can say (if you're too nervous or
busy to strike up a full conversation): "Hey, look, I've gotta go,
but you seem like a really amazing person, and I'd like to get to
know you better. Here's my number; call me and I'd love to take you
out for a cup of coffee and talk. But if you're not interested,
that's cool, too. I just didn't want to let this opportunity
pass."
- For inspiration, watch the movie 'Office Space' ('Hitch' is
awesome, too as is Die Hard) and study the s
