Steps

1. Take action first. If the mother of your child takes you to court, then you will have a problem. When a father takes the mother of the child to court, it shows the court that you really want to be in your child's life and want to take action.
2. Pay child support. Even if it's not ordered into court yet, no matter what. Give something every month and do not give cash, write a check, money order, etc.
3. Avoid arguing with the other parent. This only makes things worse and it will start giving your child mixed emotions.
4. Call the police. If at any time the other parent argues with you, just walk out and call the police. "Do not argue back", because it can be put into a police report and it can be used against you in court.
5. Keep track. This is very important, keep track everyday when you see/don't see your child. It will also help you in the long run. Do not tell the other parent that you are keeping track.
6. Make your visits. Make sure that you are making your visits when it's your day. If you cannot make it for some reason, make sure you call the other parent and tell her. Not making a scheduled visit will look bad on your part.
7. Dress professionally. Make sure you are dressed nicely with a suit, etc. Don't dress like a slob with ripped jeans or a ripped shirt.
8. Make sure that you go to all your court dates. Missing court could result in a warrant for your arrest.
9. Be yourself but also demand your rights.

Tips

• Pay your lawyer. Not paying your lawyer could result in a withdrawal of attorney.
• Listen to your lawyer. Your lawyer knows what they are doing. They are the expert not you.
• Be patient. A custody battle takes time. A custody battle can take years and years to complete.

Warnings

• Do not argue with the judge. The judge will have the final say in everything. You will get your time to talk, but whatever the judge decides, you have to deal with it.
• Know that if you threaten anyone, you will face harsh punishment.