Ever get to the fourth or fifth date before realizing it's a
dead end? Think of all the time and energy you'd save if you
could know within the first 15 minutes whether it's worth
pursuing. Here's how to do it.
Pay Attention
We all know the first date is like a job interview. You go
in trying to impress, your nerves start acting up, and before you
know it, it's over. This is typical. We're conditioned
to be self-conscious about how we look, how we dress, and what we
say - so much so that we aren't perceptive of anything or anyone
else. Stop worrying about yourself and observe your date
instead.
The Bare Necessities
Now that you're paying attention, there are three basic things
everyone should do on every date:
1. Be on time, or call if they're going to be
late.
2.
Be presentable.
3. Be nice - not just to each other, but to
everyone.
If even one of these is missing, don't read any further.
Your date is a dud.
Ask The Right Questions
You won't get many questions answered on the first date, let
alone fifteen minutes. That's why you want to make sure to
ask about the things that are important to you. If you
are a couch potato and want someone to relax with, find out if he's
game or if he'd rather be bar hopping. If financial stability
is important to you, ask about his career.
Take A Break
After fifteen minutes with your date, excuse yourself and go to
the bathroom. Then ask yourself a few questions:
1. Are you comfortable? Do you feel free
to be yourself?
2. Are you having fun? Are you laughing and
smiling?
3. Are you excited to get back to your date?
You should answer yes to at least one of these questions.
If not, consider getting an "emergency" phone call, or simply tell
him you're not feeling the connection.
If you answered yes to all of those questions and you're
wondering just how far to take it, listen to our expert advice on
how to end a good date.
