How do I psych myself up to approach a woman?
Even if you're really nervous, and you're not feeling confident when you're approaching a woman, there are three things to keep in mind that will actually help you. Number one is, no matter how nervous you are, the woman is going to be equally as nervous. Anytime you're in a party situation, everyone is nervous. They're trying to act on their best behaviour, so even if you do something that you think is stupid, she may not even pick up on it. Which actually takes me to the second point, is that you would be shocked how little people actually care what you say or do because everyone is caught up in their own head. So you might be wearing something, like a hat, that you might feel insecure about and she's not even noticing it when you approach her. You might feel insecure about it but she's not even going to pick up on it. The third thing is definitely the most important thing, and that's no matter what, regret is worse than rejection when approaching a woman. I cannot tell you how many times I've walked up to a girl and been rejected, but I say to myself, I'm happy because what happens is now I know that I went out there and I tried it. I went after it and she said no. And it probably wasn't even for a personal reason. She wasn't rejecting me, she just was not interested at this time. Now put that up against when you don't go up to the girl, you don't try to approach her, you don't talk to her. Later that night or the next day you're going to be kicking yourself, asking "Why didn't I at least say hello to that woman?" and that regret will last a lifetime sometimes. So always go up and try to approach a woman because you just never know.
