What is the 'poor me'?

What is the 'poor me'?

Mike Fisher (Founder - British Association of Anger Management) gives expert video advice on: Are there different styles of anger?; What is the 'intimidator'?; What is the 'interrogator'? and more...

The “poor me” style is a very common and typical style which you'll often see amongst passive-aggressives. The kind of things that the “poor me” would say is; “after all I've done for you, look how you treat me”, “no one understands me”, “I can never get anything right”. So the “poor me” style is very much like a victim, a martyr. They feel powerless. They don't have any control. They feel the effect of what the world does to them, and they have no awareness of the effect that they have on the world. The goal of the “poor me” is to invoke shame, embarrassment and humiliation. It's designed to control you with shame, humiliation and embarrassment.