What's the best part of being a matchmaker?
The best part of being a matchmaker, I think, is sitting and talking about love all day. I always tell people 'I can't believe I get paid for this.' I'm sitting back, talking on the phone, 'Oh my god, you like this about her' and I'm sipping my tea, and I'm so stimulated, and excited about just talking about romance and figuring out who would make a really good person to introduce to this client, and every time I meet someone I'm thinking about 'Wow, I wonder who they'd be good with, would Jill or Susan be good with them? Or would Mark or Bill be this--?" What about them was attracted to their last relationship? Or I even look at married people and I'm like do they have a good relationship? What attracted them to each other? And I always ask everyone, 'so how did you guys meet? What attracted you? Did you know right away?' You know and it's almost like being involved in this mysterious world of love day to day and my research is learning about relationships and learning why people love and learning what makes a good match. It's probably one of the most fulfilling careers I could ever imagine, you know, it's exciting, it's romantic, and I really believe it helps people make wise choices. The divorce rate now is up to 50% for the first marriage, and over 60% for the second marriage, and I think that part of that is we don't learn how to make good choices, and we don't know the tolerance of working on a relationship to make it a healthy relationship, and matchmakers really help guide their clients in making better decisions so that there's not heartbreak down in the end. It's making long-term decisions, and that feels great, to be able to play a role in helping people break really bad old patterns, of the unavailable person, or the workaholic, or being attracted to the married person, you're really allowing them to make choices initially that will be healthier long-term choices for themselves.
