What's the secret to a good match?
The secret to a good match. Number one: making sure that they are both having the same relationship goals. That is the key. Making sure that they both want to get married and they both want to have kids. Number one! So you've got to make sure that that's compatible. Number two: What are their values? What are their lifestyles? What are their "must-haves" and what are their "deal breakers"? And does that fit in within basic compatibility? And then looking at what have their patterns have been? What have they been attracted to in the past? What's positive about it and what's negative about it? And can you sort of match the positive aspects of what they've liked in the past and change a little bit about the kind of negatives, so if they've been very excited about really strong men that are charismatic but they've been emotionally unavailable, test it to make sure that you're getting that strong man but someone emotionally available so that it can lead into the direction of making a healthier choice for the long term relationship. So you tweak things that haven't worked, but not too extreme because then there won't be enough chemistry to sort of maintain this relationship. So you really have to balance those values, common relationship goals, the "must-haves" and the "deal breakers" in a very careful process, and then you never know once you introduce those people. You can think it's the best match in the world and you could be wrong. Or you can say, "You know what? I'm going to try this!", and it could be amazing. You just want to make sure you have those key elements so that if there is chemistry and there is a connection, then you've done all your homework about making sure they're compatible on all those important, crucial levels for long term compatibility.
