What affects a child's behavior between the ages of one and four?
At birth children, babies, infants think the sun rises and sets on them, and that they ought to have whatever they want whenever they want it and they have people in total service to them for a good long time. So, if you, I like to ask my parents, when you bring a baby into a household who's the boss, and they say the baby's the boss because the baby's calling all the shots, wakes up in the middle of the night you get up and you take care of that baby. So it's all about the baby. Now why would any healthy person ever think it shoud be any different than that? You got everybody running and waiting on you. Anything you need, there's the bottle, anything you need, you're getting your diaper changed, everything. People are in total service to children, right? So why would a child ever think it should be any different? The parent doesn't teach them the discipline of how to get along with others. So permissive parenting comes from that. 'Cause the child thinks I ought to have whatever I want, and if the parents don't set basic, normal, healthy boundaries with the children, then that continues on into adult life, and these people are miserable, they're miserable to get along with, they make horrible relationships, they're miserable. Nobody likes them because they don't know the give and take.
