Should I litigate against my former spouse to gain custody over my children?

Should I litigate against my former spouse to gain custody over my children?

In the high conflict cases where parents don't see eye to eye and where they have to litigate and use lawyers and experts, no matter what plan is ordered, one of the parents is likely to be unhappy with it. Usually all the problems that a child has are associated with 'well you see, if he had less time with mom or dad, he wouldn't be having these problems'. So, the conflict continues. When you go through litigation, it opens up both parents lives to the point where people are examining every part of themselves, where they're bringing up every piece of dirt. It's terrible, it's draining financially and emotionally and the children are often dragged in the middle of it and go on for years before a judge makes a determination. Those families tend to be back and forth in court. There are high conflict cases where they negotiate everything, where no one can give an hour without wanting to get an hour in return. They fight over times, they fight over if the parents return a child ten minutes late, they call the police. They remain in high conflict in courts and attorneys are always involved until at least the money runs out.