Am I gay if I have just one hookup with someone of the same sex?

Am I gay if I have just one hookup with someone of the same sex?

A lot of people write to me in my advice column, you know they are at a party or maybe they are studying, and one thing leads to another and they end up hooking up with their best friend. I mean, sometimes it happens and I always say, "Don't be so quick to give yourself a label." It doesn't matter if you are gay or you are bi-sexual, or you are a lesbian, you know, who cares what it is that you are? It doesn't matter and you need to give yourself time to figure it out, okay? But the most important thing is that you have a really strong community that is surrounding you. If you aren't sure that you are bi-sexual, go to an online resource or turn to the advocate on campus, there are so many gay/lesbian/bi-sexual advocates who you can talk to about this. Go to the counselling centre and talk to a therapist about this and really figure out who you are because it is great to know, if you can leave college being comfortable in your skin, being comfortable with your sexual orientation, well then you don't necessarily need to get married to someone of the sex that you think everyone else wants you to marry and I think that is what college is about: figuring out who you are, surrounding yourself with people who can support you along the way, and really being true to yourself.