What is the 'Oreo Cookie' technique?

What is the 'Oreo Cookie' technique?

The Oreo Cookie is a fabulous technique for expressing what you would like changed or making criticism that you have palpable. You start with the chocolate layer of the Oreo Cookie. The chocolate is stating a positive: what you do like, something that's really good that's happening in your relationship. The filling is the criticism or the negative: the "However, this is what I want, this is what I'm not happy with." Then you seal the Oreo Cookie with chocolate: "I want us to work this out. I want our relationship to be the best it can possibly be." Positive, what you want changed, positive. t works.