What can I do to help assure a low conflict divorce?

What can I do to help assure a low conflict divorce?

Well the first thing you can do to assure a low conflict divorce is to sit down with your spouse and actually talk about the process of separation. To ensure a divorce with little conflict you must really start from the beginning and say "How can we do this in the least painful and least destructive way; not only for us, but for the children" (if they're involved). If you don't get a response from your spouse because you're too angry, or too hurt, you may have to decide to do it on your own, that is, to be the good guy to avoid conflict, and decide "Well, I'll move out, because this is not something you wanted, I'll make it easier for you. I'll move out. I'm not gonna ask you to move out." So even if there's an economic consequence of you moving out, you must say to your spouse "How are we gonna tell the children? What are we gonna do? How are we gonna tell our family? How would you like to tell people? What would you like to do? Can we consult with a mediator instead of two lawyers? Can we not talk about the reason for our divorce with our friends and the community? Can we continue to be polite and nice in public to each other, and can we continue to promote each other as parents of our children?" Not airing dirty laundry in public is a key element that will keep a divorce low conflict, as opposed to high conflict.