What feelings can I expect to experience during and after my divorce?
There's a myriad of feelings that you will experience if you're going through a divorce. First and foremost, though, it depends on whether or not you're the person who wants the divorce or who doesn't want the divorce. If you are the person who actually has initiated the divorce, the most prominent feeling you're going to feel is guilt. And that is because the other person may be begging you not to leave the marriage and you may feel very guilty, and it may touch your ambivelance about the whole process. In other words, you may think, "am I making the right choice here? Maybe I'm making a mistake, even though I don't want to be with this person," and often what happens is the guilt really becomes overwhelming to the point where, if you're the one who initiated the divorce, you actually don't want to be around your ex-spouse because it exacerbates your guilt. If you are a person who has been asked for a divorce, or told that you're going to get a divorce, you're going to feel not only tremendous rejection, but you're going to feel a loss of control. That it's really out of your control; that your life, right in front of your eyes, is falling apart. That everything you planned or expected has no more reality than the fantasies in your life. And that you're going to find yourself feeling completely out of control. And that's going to frustrate you to the point where you either become very angry or very depressed.
