My parents hate each other and are always using me to get at each other - what should I do?
It's quite a common situation for your parents to really feel like they hate each other at the point they decide to get a divorce. It's important for you to understand that they really have got to a point where they feel they can't be in the same space, and that's why they decided to get divorced. Your parents really should be getting help for themselves and their own feelings and you shouldn't be dealing with how they're feeling. If they hate each other and really are feeling very emotional and using you as a go-between, it's very important to get support for yourself so that you can deal with how they're behaving, and telling them you don't like it is obviously important, and sitting down with them and describing how it makes you feel and the impact it's having on you when they behave like that is crucial. Try and get some support for yourself from organizations that are there to give you support, like helplines and childline, or talk to your friends and familiy that have nothing to do with the situation about how it feels, and maybe make a plan so that if they start to do that you can go out for a walk or see somebody that knows how hard it is for you at the moment.
