What can my spouse and I do if we can't resolve a disagreement?

What can my spouse and I do if we can't resolve a disagreement?

Sometimes, when we're embroiled in a disagreement or an argument in a marriage, we get stuck. All creative solutions fly out the window and all we feel is hardness and rigidity. Obviously, you've got to melt. Here are some ways to melt. Take some deep breaths and talk about how it feels to be stuck. That's going to melt you because you're going to reconnect with your body. If, for any reason, the two of you can't - if it keeps going back to fighting and disagreeing - then take a break. Take a five or ten minute break. Go take a walk. Breathe. Get reconnected with who you are, with your body and what you want. Then come back and try again. You can also - and this is most important - affirm that no matter what, you're going to get through this. You can share with your partner, "I'm a little stuck right now. I'm a little frozen. I love you. And I am going to get through this. And I know we're going to get through this." Most importantly, try to be flexible during disagreements in marriage. Try to bend a little bit. Often, we get stuck because we make our position rigid. Breathe. Remember the love. Say to yourself and to your partner, "We're going to get through this." I bet you'll melt.