Can control shift during the course of a divorce?
Control can and absolutely does shift during the process of a divorce, and frankly it should. If you go to court, you have given control to the judge. If you pick a lawyer who is a control freak or does not know how to assert control where appropriate, control can shift during a divorce. If you let yourself be manipulated by your lawyer, or your children, or your ex, or your new boyfriend, control can shift. Those are just examples of control shifting in a divorce. If you over indulge in alcohol or eating, you have given yourself over to another form of control. If you don't sleep and work like a maniac during a divorce, you've given up control.