How can I limit the negative effect that control issues can have on my divorce?
The best ways to limit how the negative aspects of divorce can affect a person is to pick the right type of lawyer for you. Work closely with that lawyer so that you are jointly managing the process. Have a good therapist, whether it is a psychologist, a rabbi, a minister or a priest. Stay healthy. Work out. Take care of yourself. Don't over-indulge, don't under-indulge. Don't be sleep-deprived. Don't be a maniac working all the time. Try to be as emotionally and psychologically healthy as you can to limit the negative effect that control issues can have on your divorce.