What is meant by the terms "controller" or "shot-caller" in a divorce?
The controller or shot-caller is the person who dominates the proceedings, the one who calls the shots, who controls the process. The shot caller could be the judge, the lawyer, the shrink, or even the 4 year old little girl who is a terror. The controller, or shotcaller, could be the new boyfriend, or it could be the new trixie girlfriend - that happens all the time - or the ex-mother in-law or father in-law. It could be one of the litigants and often, it's a multitude. Control can shift. So the shot caller can be the client one day, the judge the next day.