How do I get my husband to communicate his feelings?
Men are not necessarily feeling communicators, women are all about feelings and not so much solving the problem for the problems sake, but really discussing emotions and complexities of the relationship. And men are much more concrete, so if you want your husband to talk about feelings, what is that you want to accomplish? Is there something that you want to communicate to get your needs met in a certain way or do you just want him to listen about how you feel about something? But if you let him know at a time, hey, let's schedule this time so that we can talk about our relationship. There is something I want to talk to you about and it might just be I need you every weekend for 20 minutes to just let me talk about my emotions and my being overwhelmed about this or that. I would like you to communicate when you want to be romantic or I would like it if you brought me flowers more often, or I would like it if you said 'I love you' more often. The more specific you can be with a man, the more results you will get and the more fulfilled you would be. But if you wait for a man to read your mind and talk about feelings it's not going to happen and it's going to lead to disappointment for the both of you. And there is nothing that a man wants more than to be the helper and to please and to accomplish and to solve problems. So if you list what your needs are in a concrete way, then it is having each of you really understand what the others needs are and where the others coming from.
