How can examining my own patterns improve my relationships?

How can examining my own patterns improve my relationships?

If you can examine your own patterns of behavior, you can really help your relationship in a key way: you take the stress off your partner. The more you understand about what it is that sets you off, and the things that upset you, and the more you can communicate that to your partner, the less likely they are to do those things, the more likely they are to respect those boundaries of yours. And what happens is, you end up getting upset a lot less often, because you have a partner who's aware of what it is that will upset you. And when you can ask them to examine within themselves, what are the things that upset them, and you can sort of go out of your way to not do those things, you find yourself with longer periods of great harmony, and fewer periods of wanting to kill each other.