How do I get my spouse to stop listening to their parents and start listening to me?
Sometimes in marriage it's hard to stop listening to our parents. If either one of you seems to be listening to your parents more than you are listening to each other, it's time to grow up and cut the apron strings, which might be the hardest thing to do, but it is time to make your marriage come first. It's time to break away from that family of origin and come home to your new family. There are ways that you can do this. You need to sit down together and say, "We're a team here. Our decisions are what will be running the marriage. "You need to tell the partner who is listening to their parents, "Come home to me, it's time for us. It's time for you and I to be building this relationship together." Then start the building process. Talk about what it is you need, what it is you want, and how the two of you can be the captains of your ship, without in-laws getting in the way.
