What's the best way to cope with interfering in-laws?
The best way to confront interfering in-laws without hurting them or making them angry, is first to decide that the two of you are a team working together in a marriage and together use this technique. It's called the Oreo cookie. You start with a positive. When you talk to your in-laws, first you tell them how much you appreciate their love and their good intentions. Then you fill it in with the change that you want. "However, we would like you not to come by without calling first." Then you finish it with a compliment, giving them the attention, the love that they are probably desiring. "We respect your opinion. We love that you want to spend time with us. We just need this change." Using the Oreo cookie is a way that you can share, care and still set a limit with your in-laws.
