What is the most hurtful thing someone has done to you?

What is the most hurtful thing someone has done to you?

Probably the most hurtful thing that people have done to me related to transition is either just flat out rejection or direct and intentional cruelty. The rejection hurts from people that you love, like your family. It's very hurtful to find out that family members that you loved as a child, your fondest memory of your beloved grandmother and people holding you and loving you as a child and saying “I'll always love you and you're so special to me.” And then you transition and they suddenly are disgusted by you and say cruel things and ask you to never come to family dinners or holidays again. They're ashamed of you, no matter how successful you become or what a good person you try to be. That's heart-breaking and it continues to be. People who I don't love and don't' know, strangers, have been cruel since the very beginning -- from kids in the mall mocking me as I just go about my business, to people in the streets. Being trans, you learn what it's like to be heckled by strangers, children, adults, and they have the tacit approval of society to do so and that's a strange experience.