What are signs my nanny or au pair is abusing my child?
The signs that your nanny or au pair might abusing your child are going to be pretty obvious when your child's behavior changes. They're not going to want to be with the nanny, they're not going to want to be with that person. They're going to seem scared and there'll be something off. You might be asking them questions like "Well, is there something bothering you?" and they tell you nothing is bothering you. One of the typical things that child molesters do is they'll threaten a child by, once they're abusing them in some way, saying, "If you tell your parents, I'll kill your sister or I'll kill you or your mother." They're pretty evil people and they can get kids to keep secrets from their own parents even when they're being abused. That's only one example of how they might do it, but they do threaten children so they feel like they can't tell. You're going to notice a behavioral difference, and if you notice any behavioral difference in your child or a fear when that nanny is coming over, you need to stop working with that nanny or au pair immediately. Take your child to somebody who is a qualified counselor that can talk to them that really understands getting information from children that parents don't normally know how to do, until you get to the bottom line of it. Don't just wonder and think, "Oh, I don't know if there's a problem. Maybe there is, maybe there isn't". Treat it like it's a serious problem, and stop the contact between the nanny or the au pair and your child and see if there's a behavioral difference. Maybe it is something at school, maybe it isn't something that's happening at home, but it's difficult to always get good information out of children.
