How do I help my child "learn his lesson" from discipline?
Children's task in life is to learn. Children's task is to be socialized into the world that they live in, and they automatically do that. If you facilitate their learning in a way I'm recommending, then they will learn it faster than other children where the parents are still involved in punishment and all the other things. So children will become socialized very, very quickly if parents are using these optimal, modern techniques. I've seen this, I've heard this over and over from parents in my classes, is that they have so much cooperation from their children that other parents are in awe of them, and they say, "How do you do it? How do you take your children to dinner and sit down and really enjoy yourself and have a lovely conversation and the children don't make a mess and they're not up and down and running around and yelling and so how do you do it?" They're breakthrough children. How do you have children that expect that when there's a problem that the parent will solve problems with them? They expect that because they're so used to solving problems with their parents instead of having their parents dump on them what the parent thinks ought to have happen.
