How can a 12 step member handle the difficulties of life and relationships?

How can a 12 step member handle the difficulties of life and relationships?

When you walk back into that system, there's only so much you can do. You can make a man, you can try to change your life but you're not responsible for other people's reactions. You are not responsible for other people's feelings. I'd say one of the things that implies a co-dependency is like you make me feel a certain way. It's like, no you're making yourself feel that way. When I respond in a certain way the way you want, you give yourself a very positive feeling. When I don't respond the way you want, you give yourself very negative feelings and it could be anything from fear and anger to rage. The behavioral addict needs to focus on themselves. The co-dependent needs to focus on themselves and their issues because they have their own issues. Not only do they relate to the addict, but as they relate to their own life and to their own identity.