What are some tips to rekindle romance in marriage?
To rekindle the romance in your marriage, you have to remember three As: Attention, Appreciation, and Acknowledgement. Those three As are what will start the fire of your romance. Let's take them one at a time. Attention is attention to love, because romance is fuelled by love. How do you express your love? You can say it daily. In fact, a good prescription is to say it three times a day, every day. And say it at different times. It is cheating to say, "I love you! I love you! I love you!" That doesn't count. Romance is saying, "I love you", showing "I love you", feeling "I love you", at least three times a day. It is really important to show your partner appreciation in a marriage, to be grateful for all the things they do. Also, it's important for your partner to be grateful for all the things you are doing. That acknowledgement - that recognition that you are important, what you're doing is important, that because of you, life is so much better - makes your partner want to do more and feel accepted, loved, and appreciated for what they are doing. Recognize your partner to rekindle romance in your marriage; recognize each other and really express your appreciation out loud. Don't assume that they know. Say it, and say it in words and show it in your actions, such as hugging and loving and saying thank you. Often, we think affection is sex, or we think that because were making love we are expressing affection. It's certainly a level of affection, but affection means staying in touch, other than just as a precursor or foreplay to sex. It's walking by each other and stroking each other. It's sending a kiss across the room. It's taking a walk hand in hand. It's hugging each other and holding each other. It's expressing affection with your words and with your actions. It's saying, "I love you," through touch, through contact, and through staying in touch. That is how to rekindle romance in marriage.
