What can I do if I want more sex than my husband does?

What can I do if I want more sex than my husband does?

If you're finding that you're wanting more sex than your husband does, that can really hurt. It is tough to be the one who's constantly reaching and hearing "no". But there are things that you can do to either inspire your husband, or at least get your needs met, because the last thing you want to do is add more pressure. If some of his withdrawal is because he's already feeling insecure or having some shame or anxiety around performance, your pressure is only going to add to it. What he may need to know is that you do desire him and that you would like to have sex. There are ways to do that subtly, by the way you dress, by inviting him to take a shower or a bath with you, by letting him know that you are open, willing and ready. If he doesn't respond to those things, you can let him know that, "Okay, I'm going to take care of myself", and you can invite him to watch. You can ask him to lay there as you do, because there is something about being a spectator and watching you get really excited that may be a boost for him. It also takes a lot of the pressure and responsibility off of him. Most importantly, if you're wanting to have sex more than your husband, commit to answering that need and pleasuring yourself. Invite your husband to watch and maybe he'll join in.