What can I do when my husband's 'not in the mood'?
What do you do if your husband says, "I'm not in the mood"? - as shocking as that might be. Firstly, do not add pressure, because the truth is with men and women, sometimes we're on, sometimes we're off. If there's a lot of stress that your husband has experienced during the day, it may manifest itself in his lack of desire for having sex. Don't personalize. Talk to each other and find out what it is he needs. Maybe he just needs to be relaxed; maybe it's about giving him a massage. Maybe it's just about helping him relax to get into the mood. Ask him, "Sweetheart, is there anything I can do to help you? Would you like a massage?" Be there as a partner, and you may be surprised what can happen.