What can we do if my spouse and I are too tired to have sex?
If you are both too exhausted to have sex, it's still important to maintain connection. You don't roll over to separate sides of the bed and say, "Good night, honey." Make sure that you have contact because bonding and connection is vital, even more vital than even having sex. Maintain contact. Hold each other. Match each other's breathing - take three deep breaths and match each other's breathing. Fall asleep literally stroking or holding each other. It's the contact that's really important to maintain.