What do I do if I am no longer attracted to my spouse?
What can you do if you find that suddenly you are not attracted to your partner? One thing is to keep in mind that attraction waxes and wanes. It comes and it goes. Don't look at it as a permanent condition. Often, when we stop being attracted, especially suddenly, it's because there is a breakdown in communication and connection. You are probably not feeling really close to your partner so you are not wanting to get really close to your partner. Understand that within this time you need to start communicating and reconnecting. Often, just the act of sitting down and talking and sharing, letting the other person in verbally, will allow you to relax and let them in physically. You'll start becoming attracted to each other's hearts. You'll start feeling a connection again where you talk honestly to each other about what you need, what you desire, what you like, what you want. The attraction to your partner will start flowing again.