How does complaining affect happiness?

How does complaining affect happiness?

Lynn Ianni (Psychotherapist) gives expert video advice on: How do thought patterns affect happiness?; Do happy people think differently from unhappy people?; What are some characteristics of depressed thinking? and more...

Another thing about complaining is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is a bit along the lines of the secret which I think talks effectively about how when you focus on the negative, you co-create that. You experience it more often. If you complain about pain, you feel more pain because you are putting energy into pain. If you complain about something that is negative in your life and know that everyone has negative things in their lives, why would you choose then to focus on that as a way of waiting all the good things in your life and not noticing that those are going on? You do it because it feels familiar, you do it because somebody else did it when you were little. That was a way of bonding with other people. Sometimes it is that misery loves company and a way of engaging or relating with sort of the standardized, “Let's talk about our litany of complaints and somehow that will help us feels like we are all sharing.” But it does not really work to help you feel better, it just works to help you feel connected. There are better ways to help you feel connected if you join and enjoy.