How do we know if we should give our marriage another try?
You should give your marriage another try if you like your spouse i.e. you like who they are. I often ask my clients "would you date this person?", and the answer I get is "I wouldn't date them". Now, if you don't want to date someone, how do you want to be married to them? So you have to ask yourself; do you like this person, do you like their basic values, are you attracted to them as a person at all? If you can't answer yes to those questions, you're probably trying to hit a square peg into a round hole. Then you're staying in a marriage only for what you think are good reasons but not for the marital partnership at all. If you're thinking that you cannot survive in this marriage, you have to think about what it would take to make this marriage palatable and tolerable to you. If you can do that and still maintain a decent relationship, one that doesn't make you feel angry all the time, and you can get some of your needs met and be with your children and be in your home, then it's not a bad idea to stay in that marriage because on the other side, we're not sure what you're going to find. So, if you can actually do that, and lower your expectations to the point where you understand that divorce is not an option for you as it is for some people because of whatever reason, you may make your marriage work.
