What do we do if we're not sure we should divorce?
If you are confused about whether or not you want a divorce you need to do the personal work. You need to sit down with a third party - usually a professional therapist - and talk about what's going on with you and why you are feeling the need to break up your marriage. When you break up your marriage, you often break up the family, or extended families. There are major economical consequences. A divorce often affects your job, because it's very hard for people to work during a divorce. There are social consequences; people lose social affiliations. Divorce also affects people emotionally and physically because of stress involved. There are threats of money, threats of isolation; divorce is a huge decision that should never be taken lightly. You need to think about why you are confused about marriage and divorce. What you are ambivalent about? If you are staying in the marriage just because of money, or just because of children, and you don't like the spouse, it's never going to feel good. You are going to be constantly frustrated and always be thinking about the sacrifice you made and why you made it.
