What should I do if I'm considering a divorce?
If you are considering a divorce, the first thing to do is to really think about why you want a divorce and how you think that will make you feel. Will you feel free? Will you feel liberated? Will you actually feel as if you are going to be more successful in your life in a variety of areas? Or, are you doing this because you're so frustrated that you don't know what to do. Often people who are in marriages that are difficult think about divorce as a way out because they think their marriage should be perfect, they have unrealistic expectations of marriage, and when it doesn't work out perfectly or in a fairytale, then what happens is "I might as well get divorced and look for the fairytale to happen to me again, or at least the real fairytale to happen again". So, I think the people sometimes have a delusion that marriage is supposed to be more than it is. Marriage isn't a centrepiece of someone's life; it's a part of someone's life and when things go wrong in your life, it's easy to blame your marriage because that's the thing that is most prominent in your life, but in truth you probably have to look internally to see what's going on with you before you even contemplate splitting up from your spouse.
