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Dating Tips: How To Deal With A Woman Who Plays Hard To Get

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Dating Tips: How To Deal With A Woman Who Plays Hard To Get

Men, here's your break, we're going to tell you what it means when a girl plays hard to get, and how to deal with it. Men, here's your break, we're going to tell you what it means when a girl plays hard to get, and how to deal with it.

Step 1: Getting attention

She looked over and caught your eye, but immediately looked away. But what's this? - look at those flirting signals, the hair flick, showing a little leg - she's working it, she wants you to approach.

These are text book tactics - she doesn't want to look desperate by encouraging you over - that's the female equivalent of strapping a mattress to her back and having done with it. But she's singled you out with 'the look' and is in full flirt mode, the sign she wants your attention. If you're unsure, wait a minute and she will look over again... told you so, be a man and approach.

Step 2: Getting her number

Go on big guy, take the plunge and ask for her number, just be prepared for her excuses not to give it. This isn't a rejection, it's a test, the reasons for which are 3 fold.
1. Giving away her number to every shulck, sorry er, chancer, who asks will make her look easy.
2. She wants a go-getting Mr Big, not some wimp who gives up at the first hurdle
3. She might've had bad experiences before and needs assurance

Be a bit cocky and immediately ask again. Chances are you'll get those digits - BINGO. If she's still refusing - take the hint and take a hike, this lady is not for you.

Step 3: Telephone technique

When you do actually call her she won't be picking up, believe us. This girl knows how to play the game, it will go straight through to voicemail. She wants you to think she's too busy doing other exciting things. In reality, she's just waiting for the phone to ring. IT'S A GAME.

Leave a message with your phone number, and expect a reply in 1, maybe 2 days. Remember, she's playing it cool. And she needs the time to discuss the situation with her friends.

When you do finally hear from her, she'll be aloof, non committal, and definitely 'too busy' to make your suggested date. But just when you are about to give up, she'll suggest another date. That window of hope tells you it ain't over yet. FYI - She's not doing this to wind you up, she just wants to see how serious you are about her.

Step 4: Conversation

The last thing someone playing hard to get wants to do is appear eager, so she'll try to create the aura of an enigma, an ice queen who doesn't give too much away. This is quite a hard thing to pull off, believe me, so don't be surprised if she slips from chatty and interested, to giving you the cold shoulder. Act like you haven't noticed her odd behaviour - and don't let it get to you.

She might even start flirting with other men, or mention 'Brad', who's the 'great guy' she 'always hangs out with'. This is because she's been told to do this in magazines, it's meant to make you jealous.

Step 5: The long run

If you think she's worth it, stick in there. As she gets to know you, and realizes you are a genuine guy her guard will drop and she'll stop the dating tactics.

However, some girls make a career out of playing hard to get, so if she doesn't let up, ditch the game player and find a more straight forward girl. You're worth it too

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  1. Jonathan_Appling

    I am tired of dating my computer. If you are meeting women on the internet, they need to be forthright. It is so easy to just click next. boom, gone forever. I have hardly seen the same girl twice on internet dating sites or applications unless I hit ' friend' , 'save' . It might be better to move from a social network site to a private email site;but not if it involves leading you on to another website for dating purposes,like a webcam service. They are just trying to make money off your horn dog self. its cool if they are in the same city or nearby drive and want to IM you so they can be in better contact ,with you only,which better enhances your chances at meeting and maintaining a relationship with a significant partner. If you never meet them in person and continue from there together, you are still alone. It is humbling and safe enough to meet someone on the internet. But don't make someone chase you around forever on the internet. That is mean. You should never tease a man ,with out rewarding him. We are compared to dogs all the time. You dont pull the ham slice from the dog unless he performs the trick. then you reward him with the ham slice, in this case, a sandwich at a Subway. The longer you wait to meet someone, the more likely they will not see you as a person fit to be with. That would just mean they are teasing you without the reward. Instead, be more forthright and be a real woman and fill your life and free time with dates instead of unfelt emotion, emoticons, acronyms, abbreviations. When you are cold and alone in the dark and get tired of it, you will understand that you need a man when things go ,crash in the night, its too heavy to lift, *your hand cant hit the spot & have to wrap it up in an ace bandage* or you just cant get to school to pick up your kids on time. There are a lot of good men out there that just want companionship, they will be significant to you . some just put the cart before the horse and expect it to go forward. But you also have to be true to yourself . If you do not care for your looks /appeal to others, you cant expect someone to notice you. If you do not shave your face , take a shower and throw on some Axe or favorite cologne, you are very able to be passed up more easily. regardless of what gender you are, if you are not in love with the person you are relating to, Guard your heart ,motions , emotions but never lead someone your way without reciprocation. Jon Appstar

  3. ksroyalk

    i want to smack women lthat play hard to get. especially the ones thatwithout even talking once to us but ignore us rudely.

  4. bock

    Hang in for the long run and you find yourself on the "Friend-Ladder" ;) Nail her at the second or third date or dump her...

  5. TheSensitiveJerk

    Also, not true @SophiaAegis. When a man knows that your THE ONE he will immediately know that u are infact THE ONE! You just havent found THE ONE who thinks your THE ONE. A girl that would play these mind games has trust and self esteem issuez... becuase a woman that does these things doesn't trust tha fact that she iz dating a real man who iz genuinely interested in her! If she can't come to see that in the start then she doomed to never finding true love. And if it iz one thing that EVERY woman wants it iz true love. A girl shouldn't have to play mind games just to feel good about herself(LOW SELF ESTEEM).

  6. nekuya

    Girls like that are almost never worth it. Ever.

  7. grahan

    girls seldom see or know a serious and honest faithful guy...

  8. SophiaAegis

    Sorry to say guys, to all of you complaining that this games are worthless and men runaway, my experience is different. I never did games till today I still don't beacause I don't agree with it, but all that made me gain was guys leaving after a month or so. No, I didn't get into bed at first or second date, but I've never played hard to get, or hide my intentions, and every single damn of the 9 times I fell for a guy that told me he was really interested in having a serious relationship with me, he just started having doubts or abusing my confidence in him, and honesty, the last one just called 2 weeks ago saying he was sorry but he got in bed with another chick he met online, and he was sorry but he was going to stay with her... we were together for a bit more than a month and I was very honest with him from the start. Sorry to generalize, but I've never met a guy that stood with a girl unless she made him crawl in the first few months, my girlfriends (all with more than 3 year boyfriends) agree and keep beating me in the head beacuse I simply refuse to play games with men. This last guy also said he hated games, and that his ex-girlfriend betraid him, and played with him.... bla bla.... men are all the same!! That's a fact! But always think to be better than the rest, the others guys are bad, not them... the thing is, all end up doing the same s**t !!! Going after the ones that play this games... Oh yeah I haven't manage to get a serious boyfriend ever! And I've been trying for the last 5 YEARS. I'm gonna try the b***hy way now, see if it works! Or stay single if I just can't cope with it, and just get into the fact that men cannot love... -until the first 9 months of chasing a girl ... that just knows how to keep him chasing her.

  9. Angel_Byte

    I felt so strongly about this video, and another (manipulate men), that I signed up for VideoJug just to comment. This is pure propoganda, and does nothing except alienate potential partners - never mind treating them like a moron. If you DO manage to pull a girl/guy with these tactics, it will ultimately result in break-up, as BOTH of you have been pretending to be someone else from the get-go, and you might not like who you actually are going out with. I feel deeply upset that women would even enteratain these ideas as a joke, and if I ever come across a woman that plays these kind of mind games - I will not be shy about calling her on it, and then walking away. REMEMBER - Have a little self-respect, use your brain and dont give in to the pressure of spending your life alone. Id rather be alone than deal with crap like this on a regular basis. This video should be banned - amusing as it might be to some - it is grossly offensive to me, and Im sure many other men like me out there. And before you start on me, Im attractive, wealthy, confident and intelligent - so think girls - if this video offends your target audience, what sort of bloke is going to bother with you if you "play". Life is not a game, neither is love - and if you treat them as such - you will lose.

  10. DownAtTheAl

    NO NO NO! Give up, you've let her feel important enough, if she gives you the run around end it at once, she'll be the one missing out....