How To Ask A Girl Out

I'm going to be showing you how to ask a girl out and to give yourself the best chance of success. First of all, ban the negative! We've all got little voices in our head that say, she won't go out with me because of this, this and this. My hair's not good enough.

I'm not in the cool gang. I don't earn enough money. Whatever it is, you've got to get rid of that voice, you've got to squash that voice dead.

If you never ask anyone out, you're never going to get a date. It might feel comfortable to say “Oh, she won't go out with me because of this, this and this”. You can have that security blanket if you want it, but you're never going to get you a date.

That blanket, that security is going to prevent you from getting out there and getting your woman. Banish the negative. Fill you head with positive thoughts.

Think about the time you aced a presentation, when you did really well on a test, when you threw a great party, when you scored an amazing goal. Before you go and ask her out, throw an amazing attractor which gets you banked and feeling really glad to be alive. We're going to fill you with positive and we're going to ban the negative.

When you ask a girl out, there is a real temptation just to go up to her and say, “Would you like to go out with me, can I have your number”? It's a bad idea, I always feel, to just go with a question that's fifty-fifty, that she's only going to say yes or no to. One, because it's really harsh if she turns around and says no, because it's going to feel really hard, and secondly, there is less chance of her actually saying yes. If you ask somebody an outright question, they'll very often reply in a way that's defensive or negative.

If you catch her when she's dashing off to go somewhere, and you just say, “Can I have your number, can we go out,” she's probably going to say no because she's in a hurry and she doesn't want to deal with this situation now. It's better instead to break it into a wider conversation. Have a chat with her.

Make sure you've got her full attention. Don't do it when she's in a rush or off somewhere. Do it when you've got her full attention, be fun, have a big smile, and make lots of eye contact with her.

Grab her attention and show her how fantastic your personality is. It might sound strange but practice on people that you don't even fancy, because then, there's no risk.

A striker doesn't get to score goals at the weekend because he just turns up with his kick and a football; he practices all week to get the ball into the net. You're going to practice with people that you don't know, to make them laugh, to have a giggle with them, to have fun around them, it doesn't matter if it's people at school, your sister's friends, your Mum's friends, it doesn't matter, you're just going to be having fun with people and making yourself easy to talk to. Finally, when you ask someone out, make sure you're actually bringing something to the table.

By that, I mean give her a reason why she would want to go out with you. Don't just say, “Would you like to go out with me, can we go out sometime”? Say, “I'm having this really cool party, would you like to come? Me and my friends are having this bowling game where it's boys v. girls, we're a girl short, I think you'd have a really good time if you came out with us”.

Anything - give her something to hang on to. Give her some kind of reason why you're kind of fun and great to hang around with. If you're really, really struggling, have a quick peek at her social networking profile.

It might sound a bit naughty and a bit stalker-ish but just take a little, few bits of information. Find out a couple of things that she might like. Have you got any mutual friends who can tell you anything about her? Just a couple of key hints that might give you something in common, something to latch on