How To Avoid Family Arguments At Christmas
Avoid family arguments at Christmas with VideoJug's guide. Life Coach Sally Ann Law gives expert advice on how to avoid festive family arguments so try and go through one Christmas without one family argument with VideoJug's help!
Step 1: Plan ahead
Before the event, think about what might happen on the day and predict what problems may arise. If you know there are going to be people there who don't get along, don't worry about what could happen but think of a way to avoid it. Try to speak to them before the day and talk about what might happen. You probably won't solve the conflict with one conversation and you can't force them to reconcile. Instead, you can try to work out a compromise so that their personal problems don't become the focus of Christmas for the rest of the family.
Step 2: Give your guests a choice
Look for triggers that usually cause arguments at Christmas and get rid of them. Allow people to have time to themselves and enjoy Christmas in their own way rather than enforcing plans on them. Does everybody really have to go to that Christmas carol concert? If some people would rather not go, let them stay at home. It will be better for everyone that they are relaxed and content than angry and uncomfortable.
Step 3: Share responsibility
It's likely that some members of your family have inherited roles that they are not necessarily comfortable with. If someone is taking on the bulk of the responsibility and they seem to be going into overdrive, avoid meltdown before it happens. They need to be able to share the responsibility and allow others to help.
Approach them with caution as they may become defensive. Don't tell them that they can't handle everything on their own. Be diplomatic and offer them a solution that will make the day more enjoyable for everybody.
Step 4: The kids
The excitement of having people coming and going all day and food at all hours can upset your family's normal routine. Try to keep this to a minimum as it will affect your children's behaviour. You'll need to start saying no to keep the family functional.
Step 5: Conflict resolution
If an argument does break out, make the people involved aware of how it affects the rest of the family. Let them see the impact of it on everyone else and point out that it's just not fair. If this doesn't stop them, it may be time to try some conflict resolution. Try to find out what is at the heart of the argument and if there is any way it can be resolved, at least enough to make the rest of the day bearable for everyone.
Step 6: Relax and have fun
Above all, remember that Christmas is supposed to be fun. It shouldn't be one obligation after another as that will bring about a general mood of no fun. It's a time to relax so do just that. Don't take on too much and make your expectations realistic. It will never be as perfect as you would like so simply appreciate the time spent together with your family and enjoy the day.