How To Be "Just Friends"
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How To Be "Just Friends"
Why is it so hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex? Studies show the relationship ends more times than not once sex is introduced. Keep the friendship. Keep it platonic.
Step 1: Friends With Benefits
If you remember the real advantages of opposite-sex friendship, you probably won't throw them away for a one-nighter. Guys, you can express your feelings with her in a way you can't with the boys. Girls, you get a protective, big-brother type pal. And you both get the inside scoop on how the other sex operates.
Step 2: Dirty Tricks
If you do find yourself eyeing up your buddy, put up some barriers. Ladies, next time you go out with your guy friend, slack off in the hygiene department. Try wearing grandma underwear. Skip the shower. Don't shave those legs. It'll help you keep your pants on.
Step 3: Wear Yourself Out
Gentlemen, expending sexual energy before you meet up with your female friend will usually suppress any inappropriate feelings that may pop up. And gals, don't be ashamed. This will work for you, too.
Step 4: Converse With Caution
Don't let the chatter drift toward sexual innuendo. No one wants to hear another "that's what SHE said" joke. Instead...talk about your ex. Or irritable bowel syndrome. Or the reptilian humanoid conspiracy theory. Don't talk about how tight your bra feels today. If you need a back rub, keep it to yourself. Oh, and take it easy on the booze. Friends don't let friends drink...and dive into bed.
Finally, if you find yourself waking up with your best bud, take some space, then talk. Remember, you're friends for a reason and if you really do care for each other, it won't be hard to figure out if it's love, lust, or just the liquor.
Tips & Comments
I generally sleep with girls who I consider good friends, and the rest are quite superficial. I think most of the macho/princess mentality of not sleeping with friend utterly destroys the relationship between man and woman. No guy want s to be castrated by a woman, and he will be forced to remain superficial, rather become castrated. And women don't want a guy to treat them bad because they like sex. I think my French and Swedish friends are great and far are more advanced in human development than all the girls I know from some countries where the women have less social status, less education, and less salary. Sex to me has to do with intimacy, so the more geniune and intimate the relationship is, the more sex we have, and I think that is a healthy way. It seems to me that the cultures where the men women don't sleep with friends, women have less ability to make you laugh, have less women's rights, bigger difference between salaries for the same work, and somehow hate men. Anyway, I feel some people are way behind. If you have a deep friendship, sex will come naturally, and enhance intimacy, and there more reasons to do that. I don't see the point just to waste your time with someone who doesn't want to share their warmness and closeness. Make peace with yourself. Be responsible for your own beliefs, for your own sanity!
ok well i have alot of guy friends and yes we are close and they like me but i told them that we just stay friends they all are like a big brother to me even though they want to date me and they get jelllouse of the guys i date but owell they find some way of getting over it so yes u can have friends with thee opposite sex some times better than with the same
It is possible. My best friend is a guy i met in college 7yrs ago. We have both had partners and it has never been an issue with us. I think at first I may have had feelings for him, but it was clear that it was not reciprocated and we talked about and have become close friends - sharing day to day events with each other. If you dont have a 'friend' of the opposite gender, I feel sorry fro you as it is eye opening. Oh and a lot less demanding lol.
You don't have to make yourself unattractive whenever you go out with male friends. I've had a few guy friends in my life, no romantic feelings whatsoever! Chances are, if you're "just friends" then you don't have romantic feelings for each other in the first place. Guys and girls aren't automatically attracted to each other.
wow these people are really talented actors!
Sorry to break your bubble girls but, even if youre super ugly, your going to end up being the love interest of your male friend, atleast for a little while. Thats just how we guys are. Thats because , even if at first we think your ugly, the fact that your a fun peroson to be with can turn you into a potential love interest. The only kind of girl that is safe of becoming the love interest of one of her guy friends is a girl with no friends =P
i ain't slept with any of my male friends...i don't feel sexually attracted to them...(and no, i don't feel sexually attracted to my female friends either) guys and girls CAN be friends without the sexual tension/acts between them....it's all in the mind
so what do you do if you had a guy friend for about a year and you think they like you and you like them but ur both shy what do you do?
the look he gives her at ''how tight your bra is today'' is just hilarious. :D
it's oke