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How To Be The Perfect Guest

How to be the perfect guest: The perfect guest will help any party to run smoothly. The better the guests, the better the party. Let VideoJug show you how to be the perfect guest.


Step 1:

RSVP

When you receive an invitation to a party, whether it's a dinner party or an informal get-together, it's simple courtesy to let your host know whether or not you can make it. This is particularly important for a dinner party, where they will need to know how many to cook for. A good host will have issued the invitations well in advance and may have given you a date by which to respond. You should always respond before this date, whether you can attend or not. If the invitation doesn't include an RSVP date you should respond as soon as possible, and not later than a week before the event.

Step 2:

Arrival

Your host will have told you what time to arrive. It is polite to arrive between ten and twenty minutes after this time. This will allow your host an extra few minutes to make sure they are ready before guests arrive. You should never arrive early, particularly for a dinner party, as the host will not be ready for you.
If you are going to arrive late, you should call ahead to let them know, or they may think you've forgotten. It is very rude to arrive any later than half an hour after the stated arrival time.

Step 3:

Gifts

Some people like to take a small gift to thank the host for their hospitality. Champagne or other small consumables like chocolate or preserves are always a good idea. If you present your host with a bunch of flowers they will need to find a vase, fill it with water and find somewhere to put your flowers - an unwelcome interruption if they're trying to welcome guests at the same time. If you take a gift, you should never expect it to be used on the night. Instead, give it to your host and suggest they save it for their own use later.

Step 4:

Join in

A party is only as much fun as the people who attend. You should do your best to join in wherever possible. Make conversation, get to know the other guests, and have fun. If the host has planned some games or other events, take part. If there is something you don't like, don't complain but try and make the best of it.

Step 5:

Drink responsibly

A bit of lubrication always helps a party run smoothly, but be careful not to overdo it. Try to drink a glass of water for every alcoholic drink. This will stop you getting a hangover the next day and will help you keep your head when it matters.

Step 6:

Don't outstay your welcome

If the invitation stated a time for the party to finish, you should make sure that you leave at or soon before that time. You don't know what else your host has planned - they may have a busy day the next day, or may simply be exhausted from the party and want to sleep. Of course they may be enjoying the party and want it to continue, in which case they should make it clear to you that they want you to stay. If they do, that's your cue to put down your coat and pick up another drink.

Step 7:

Say thank you

After your host has gone to all the trouble of putting a barnstorming party together, the least you can do is thank them. This will let your host know that someone appreciated their efforts - and, apart from anything else, a well-timed thank you will make you more likely to get an invite the next time. For a drinks party or informal gathering, a simple phone call will do the job perfectly. For a more formal dinner party, it's polite to send a postcard or short letter. If you've stayed for the weekend, you should send a letter covering at least two sides.

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1 out of 1 person found this comment helpful Anonymous  (113 days ago)

If the recovering alcoholic were that vulnerable he/she probably wouldn't be holding a party in which abstinence wasn't pre-announced. As an RA myself, I would be delighted in the gift which I could give to my non-alcoholic guests rather than have to buy it (I've given those ****** enough money as it is!)

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2 out of 2 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (175 days ago)

I've been taught that you should not take alcohol as a gift at least unless you know the person well, since they might be a recovering alcoholic and might not be able to resist the temptation to start drinking again.

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1 out of 1 person found this comment helpful Anonymous  (184 days ago)

Arrive 15 or 20 minutes late? I say arrive on time or sit down to a cold dinner. This is from one of the older generation.

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1 out of 2 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (316 days ago)

coool!

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0 out of 3 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (344 days ago)

the person below-haha id say...the person below below...waht he said-get a life..HA!

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0 out of 3 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (349 days ago)

To the person below- get a life.

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3 out of 8 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (349 days ago)

Good information, though it's relatively rare, at least in the US, to have such a formal party (maybe more common for an older generation, I don't know). I'd say the rules in the US are a bit different and generally less formal. My observations are from the viewpoint of the US and for someone under the age of 40. I don't know how the old folks party, really. I agree about never arriving earlier than the start time. In the US I'd say you'd want to arrive between 15 and 30 minutes late for a dinner party unless you're one of the host's best friends and you've offered to help them set up. More than 30 minutes late for a dinner party is probably rude. I've had people who actually offered to help set up and then arrived early and didn't actually help (but brought someone else with them and just talked to the other person the whole time). Arriving early and hampering set up ISN'T helpful or welcome as the video states. But it's nice for one or more of the closest friends of the host to offer this help if they are really going to help. For a non-dinner party (snacks, drinks) it's often more common for people to arrive between 15 and maybe up to 60 minutes late. The written response for RSVPing seems excessively formal for many parties, also. Most of the younger generation in the US would never think of expecting a written response. Verbally indicating whether you're coming is usually appropriate. Another option might be to email a response. Many people also use something like eVite which invites people to parties by email and tracks their responses online automatically (coming, not coming, maybe). If it's an informal party that includes eating (informal dinner party or barbecue) guests will often offer to bring food or drink and ask what category of something they should bring and for how many. The host might say something like "if you'd like to bring enough dessert for 10 people that would be fantastic." Usually if the host indicates that no food is needed then it's nice, but not required, to bring wine (or for a BBQ, perhaps beer or soft drinks). Of course as a host you might not want to count on people for critical items if you know those people are unreliable. People often offer to bring food to a dinner party even when the party has not been advertised as a potluck. There are certainly generational and cultural differences of what is considered appropriate for a party. Also there are big differences depending on the formality of the affair. I think the trend it toward less rather than more formal parties.

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1 out of 3 people found this comment helpful Anonymous  (369 days ago)

come on!!! just enjoy the fun with the host. (I didn't know older British people do those boring steps ..YaCk!! )

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1 out of 3 people found this comment helpful bb  (369 days ago)

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