VideoJug: comments about How To Be The Perfect Guest

videojug is the mummy i never had

Sun, 13 May 2007 21:10:23 GMT

videojug is the mummy i never had

come on!!! just enjoy the fun with the host. (I didn't know older ...

Mon, 14 May 2007 02:21:27 GMT

come on!!! just enjoy the fun with the host. (I didn't know older British people do those boring steps ..YaCk!! )

Good information, though it's relatively rare, at least in the US,...

Sat, 02 Jun 2007 22:28:23 GMT

Good information, though it's relatively rare, at least in the US, to have such a formal party (maybe more common for an older generation, I don't know). I'd say the rules in the US are a bit different and generally less formal. My observations are from the viewpoint of the US and for someone under the age of 40. I don't know how the old folks party, really. I agree about never arriving earlier than the start time. In the US I'd say you'd want to arrive between 15 and 30 minutes late for a dinner party unless you're one of the host's best friends and you've offered to help them set up. More than 30 minutes late for a dinner party is probably rude. I've had people who actually offered to help set up and then arrived early and didn't actually help (but brought someone else with them and just talked to the other person the whole time). Arriving early and hampering set up ISN'T helpful or welcome as the video states. But it's nice for one or more of the closest friends of the host to offer this help if they are really going to help. For a non-dinner party (snacks, drinks) it's often more common for people to arrive between 15 and maybe up to 60 minutes late. The written response for RSVPing seems excessively formal for many parties, also. Most of the younger generation in the US would never think of expecting a written response. Verbally indicating whether you're coming is usually appropriate. Another option might be to email a response. Many people also use something like eVite which invites people to parties by email and tracks their responses online automatically (coming, not coming, maybe). If it's an informal party that includes eating (informal dinner party or barbecue) guests will often offer to bring food or drink and ask what category of something they should bring and for how many. The host might say something like "if you'd like to bring enough dessert for 10 people that would be fantastic." Usually if the host indicates that no food is needed then it's nice, but not required, to bring wine (or for a BBQ, perhaps beer or soft drinks). Of course as a host you might not want to count on people for critical items if you know those people are unreliable. People often offer to bring food to a dinner party even when the party has not been advertised as a potluck. There are certainly generational and cultural differences of what is considered appropriate for a party. Also there are big differences depending on the formality of the affair. I think the trend it toward less rather than more formal parties.

To the person below- get a life.

Sun, 03 Jun 2007 09:14:12 GMT

To the person below- get a life.

the person below-haha id say...the person below below...waht he sa...

Fri, 08 Jun 2007 11:33:27 GMT

the person below-haha id say...the person below below...waht he said-get a life..HA!

coool!

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 19:18:00 GMT

coool!

Arrive 15 or 20 minutes late? I say arrive on time or sit down to...

Wed, 14 Nov 2007 23:55:21 GMT

Arrive 15 or 20 minutes late? I say arrive on time or sit down to a cold dinner. This is from one of the older generation.

I've been taught that you should not take alcohol as a gift at lea...

Sat, 24 Nov 2007 15:59:11 GMT

I've been taught that you should not take alcohol as a gift at least unless you know the person well, since they might be a recovering alcoholic and might not be able to resist the temptation to start drinking again.

If the recovering alcoholic were that vulnerable he/she probably w...

Fri, 25 Jan 2008 00:53:04 GMT

If the recovering alcoholic were that vulnerable he/she probably wouldn't be holding a party in which abstinence wasn't pre-announced. As an RA myself, I would be delighted in the gift which I could give to my non-alcoholic guests rather than have to buy it (I've given those ****** enough money as it is!)