How To Begin Grieving The Loss Of A Child
The loss of a child is one of the most terrible experiences any couple may undergo. In this video, a counselling psychologist gives some useful and compassionate advice.
The loss of a child is one of the most tragic, painful experiences that any parent will have to go through. We all expect our children to outlive us; so to not go through that natural process adds to the grieving process itself. Try not to cut each other out.
Try to be kind and loving to the people who are around you. You will feel quite angry and lost at this stage. You will possibly be in denial at this stage.
Allow your emotions to flow. Whatever emotion you are feeling, allow it to come out in the best way possible. Try, and even at this very early stage, find some positives, maybe that the child is now at rest.
Don't shut your partner out. They will be grieving, too. And they will be grieving a different way to you because the relationship they had with the child would be different.
So, it is important to recognize that your partner will not be grieving in the same way as you are. Maybe he needs to laugh; we don't have to be sad all the time. But at the same time we have to allow that sadness to come through.
Seek professional help if necessary. There are many groups that help couples through this tragic time, and they can be very, very beneficial. Go on the Internet, ask your doctor, look in your local library or directory to find possibly the right group that is right for you.
You may also want to embark on individual therapy at some stage through the grieving process. But initially, it is important that you pull together as a couple and listen to who the people around you. And allow your feelings to come through fully so that you are able to actually experience the complete process of grieving. .