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How To Boost Your Self Esteem

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How To Boost Your Self Esteem

Watch the VideoJug guide to boosting self-esteem. We provide you with advice on overcoming self-doubt and learning to think more positively. Watch the VideoJug guide to boosting self-esteem. We provide you with advice on overcoming self-doubt and learning to think more positively.

Step 1: What is low self esteem?

Self esteem is the opinion you have of yourself. This is not constant. Your self esteem can go up and down depending on the things that are happening in your life.
A major influence on self esteem is the type of childhood you had. The relationships you've had with your parents, and others, and the amount of praise and encouragement you received from them will have had a big effect.
Any type of abusive relationship, whether it is physical or psychological abuse, will invariably have an impact on a person's self esteem.

Step 2: Don't be so hard on yourself

Try not to focus on things that have happened or that you might have done wrong in the past. Holding onto guilt and regret over long periods doesn't achieve anything. Try to let go of these feelings, rather than criticising yourself and being negative about yourself.

Step 3: Be positive

Try to focus as much as possible on your achievements, and your talents, even if they're small. If you're good at something, keep doing it, and try to forgot about what you perceive are your weaknesses. Also try to stretch yourself by giving yourself new challenges and goals, so that you can feel a sense of achievement when you reach them.
It can also be helpful to have a positive role model, someone whose qualities you admire. Surround yourself with positive people, and try to enjoy a social life with people who make you feel good about yourself.

Step 4: Reward yourself

A good way to feel better about yourself is to set achievable goals, and then reward yourself when you reach them.
Treat yourself to things you really enjoy and make you feel good, like a massage or a nice meal.
Acknowledge that you deserve to be good to yourself.

Step 5: Your health

Your body and mind are very closely linked and so one will affect the other. So if you're sick or run-down you are less likely to feel good about yourself.
Eat a healthy, balanced diet, but don't beat yourself up if you don't always stick to it. Also, try to exercise regularly, and take up activities that help you relax - yoga, pilates and meditation are good for this.

Remember, high self esteem doesn't just happen automatically. But by staying positive, and nurturing yourself, you can end up feeling great about who you are. Good luck!

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  1. yvonnea

    i will try, there's just so many things in my life that happend that im always trying to forget and cant, but everyday its a struggle for me.

  3. ladylove09

    What if your always positive but always get negative bcak in return?? Then what?

  4. aahshan

    this is nice...thanks...

  5. anapao89

    My problem - bad childhood, I loved tennis but a group of people started calling me names and making jokes of being fat (when I was not even that fat) and throughout my life many people made feel unwelcome and unattractive. And now I'm scare of meeting or keeping a relationship with someone because I always think they won't like me or just stab me in the back because I'm fat or ugly. Im currently working on it, but it is hard! what I always think of is that I won't let negative thoughts from keeping me meeting and having healthy relationships (because I know the problem but it feels as if somebody is controlling my thoughts and I cant do anything about it)

  6. Natalieee

    I do all these things & I still have horrible self esteem.... I don't get it.

  7. HankMoody

    I used to have low self-esteem, for multiple reasons. One was that I was a perfectionist, so I regarded every mistake as failure. But mistakes are chances to learn. Use them for this purpose, be grateful for them, but move on once they stop being sources of helpful lessons. Successful people are not people who do not make mistakes. If anything, they have made far more mistakes than most people, but used them as tools to learn and then moved on instead of hiding in some hole, hoping that nobody will ever find out. This is hard to do if other people yell at your mistakes or your performance, possibly because they are perfectionists themselves. Or if you are actively measuring your performance by comparing yourself with other people. Rule of thumb: being the best of ten people doesn't mean that you are actually good. Just like being the worst of ten people doesn't mean that you are actually bad. If you rate your performance solely by comparing yourself with others, you are trapping yourself. The exact same performance can be rated completely differently, depending on who you compare yourself with. Moreover, you can only ever be good at activities that other people are also doing, meaning you will never innovate or be a pioneer at something. It all comes down to having the right expectations. They should not be unreasonable (as in: read these ten books until tomorrow morning) or conflicting (as in: build a car that can travel at 200 mph, drive through every kind of terrain and carry ten adult elephants as cargo). If you want to boost your self-esteem, it really helps to develop a well-founded set of expectations based on absolute measurements that make sense even if nobody else is around. Set your own standards and stick to them. Then every critique is just unfortunate rather than catastrophic, just like every praise is just nice rather than essential and addictive. You can get well-founded expectations by doing research in yourself and the things that are important to you (i.e. your goals, area of work, etc.). Get to know yourself really well. Ignore what you think you should be able to do, just because other people apparently are, and focus on what you are actually able to do. If you are using labels (perfectionist, lazy, competitive, impatient, ...), check the definitions of these labels, even read books about them once in a while. Either you find out that the label doesn't describe you as well as you thought, or you discover other aspects about yourself associated with that label. Well-founded expectations come through knowledge. Don't wait for the TV to randomly come up with helpful information, find it yourself! But be patient and honest. If you do this, you're in for a ride. Don't expect that it's enough to take a week off, read some stuff and voilà, you have self-esteem! This is a journey, but a very rewarding one. You need to think a lot, read a lot and try a lot. Don't expect to like everything you will find out about yourself or the world. Regardless, if it's the truth, you are better off knowing it instead of being disappointed by an unexpected outcome, thus crushing your self esteem once again. Good luck!

  9. kishmishx

    Great acting! I found this video quite helpful. Some things sounded so familiar! Thank you Videojug