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How To Break Up The Right Way
How to break up the right way: VideoJug presents a guide on how to make breaking up go as smoothly as possible. Breaking up is always hard to do, but by following these six steps during the break up, you will experience a more amicable split.
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Step 1:
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Courage
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Once you have decided your relationship is not working and want to end it, act immediately. Don't let things carry on, this is unfair on the both of you. Have a long think about why you are unhappy and what you want. Once it is clear in your head you will be able to cope with telling your partner.
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Step 2:
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Arrange to meet
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Set up a specific time and place to meet face to face, explaining that you need to talk. This will likely warn your partner something is wrong, preparing them also.
Arrange to meet somewhere comfortable to you both, where you can talk openly.
Don't break up over the phone, or even worse, by text or email. This is cowardly, and will haunt you later.
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Step 3:
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Get to the point
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When you meet, don't beat about the bush. Pretending everything is fine, then springing it on them after a couple of hours will be confusing.
Pick your words carefully to let them down as gently as possible. Be tactful, not brutal.
Even if there is a third party involved never mention it. This only adds insult to injury.
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Step 4:
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Focus on the positive
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They will be hurting and will have many questions. Answer these as honestly as possible but don't get drawn into an argument. Reiterate why you need to break up. Stay calm, even if they don't.
Let them know what a great person they are and how they deserve someone who can give them what they want - and that person isn't you.
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Step 5:
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Don't give them hope
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Stay firm. Be clear that its over. Don't be manipulated into giving it another try - this is not fair on either of you.
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Step 6:
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Clean break
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Don't arrange to meet up in the near future. You will both need a period to get used to the split and let wounds heal. This doesn't ruling out staying friends but gives you time to adjust and move on.
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