How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend
How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend
This video gives advice on how to "respectfully" break up with someone. Although it mentions boyfriend, it is really teaching anyone to treat the one you're breaking up with as you would want it for yourself.
Too many times, I hear about people who are sending texts and emails - oh my goodness, they're doing it on Facebook - and all sorts of things and that's really not a nice way to break up with anybody. I think even if you've been in a relationship with somebody, no matter how short, you owe it to them to at least tell it to their face. If you find it hard speaking your feelings, then maybe write it down in a short letter and give it to them, but make sure you're around so they can talk to you.
It's really about treating people how you would like to be treated. Try not to go through a list of all the faults and why you don't like them, and what's wrong with them, if only they were this, everybody has their faults. It might be there's something specific that they've done to upset you or to annoy you, or that's been fundamentally the reason why you're breaking up with them.
Then, of course, let them know because it might help them in future relationships to pay more attention to this area of their life. But always remember that you want to be doing it in a way how you would like it if he were breaking up with you, to speak to you or to communicate any problems with you. So, make sure it's done sympathetically.
Choose your environment where you do it properly. Don't do it somewhere that's in a public place. You know, I've seen people break up with other people in the middle of a supermarket, even in a cinema where everybody could hear.
Really, really choose the environment. Go somewhere that's quiet, where they can talk if they want to talk, and make sure it's done in a private, empathetic environment. What I would also like to say is that if you want to learn how to beak up with your boyfriend without it becoming a messy situation is talk to your boyfriend before you talk to your friends.
This happens so often where people tell their friends that "We're going to break up", "We've had enough", and you haven't actually told your boyfriend and he hears about it through other means and other channels. So make sure if you've got a problem, at least, go to him first. You would hate to hear that he was breaking up with you first by your friends, so have the courtesy to take the time out and go straight to your boyfriend, let him know what's going on, and then if you want some support from your friends, that's fine.
Always try to do it with the idea that it would be nice to be friends afterwards if possible. You know if you break up in that way, where you think "I want to leave this person to where I can be friends with them", then at least you know you're taking the right energy and you are being a bit sympathetic to this person, and imagine, how would you like it if it were reversed. If you follow these simple tips, then it shouldn't be a messy situation and these are really just some guidelines to show you how to break up with your boyfriend.
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Although it mentions boyfriend, it is really teaching anyone to treat the one you're breaking up with as you would want it for yourself.