How To Chat To A Girl On The Phone

So, how do you talk to a girl on the phone? Well, I suppose it depends on whether you're asking her out on a date, or even for directions. Now, if you're asking for directions, now don't expect a date unless that's a smoke screen for asking her on a date, because she'll think you're a Muppet and rightly so. Although, she might be reassured, because obviously, most have a reputation for not asking for directions certainly when they're lost, the main thing is to don't appear too keen, don't appear nervous.

I know you might be pedalling like mad underneath, because if you're nervous, she'll feel a bit nervous and awkward. I'm not saying you should be super slickly smooth, you're licking both eyebrows going “How you doing?”, because then, she'll think you're maybe a bit of a player, which is not the right way of doing it. Here's a good tip, when you're on the phone, because people form probably 85% of their visual impression of you when you speak over the phone, it's the same over the radio, they can always tell whether you're smiling, whether you're standing, sitting, whether you're happy, whether you're at ease, almost what clothes you're wearing, what environment you're in.

They're painting this incredibly detailed sensory picture of you. If you stand up, you're going to feel more confident, the way you move about, if it's an important business call, for instance, it's the same important call if you're talking to a girl. Stand up, walk about as if you're on stage, because you'll speak with more animation, more dynamism, if you're able to move your arms and move about and you'll have a greater effect on the other end.

You'll be better received. Don't be crass, don't be blatantly suggestive, because that won't work, unless she's that sort of girl, in which case, why call, just text. Tease her, leave an element of mystery, have fun, have a chat.

First of all, ask her when you call up, “Do you have a minute? Is now a good time to chat?”, because if it's the middle of a work week, it might not be brilliant. So, pick your time, pick your moment, if she says no, fair enough, ask her when a good time is to call back, and then call back. Of course, if you've got on really well and you know she's keen, she's almost hinted that she wants you to ask her out, then just ask her out.

And then say, “Can we possibly”, don't say, I'm meek, with sort of passive language, proactive, strong language, another hypnotic language technique, don't say “Can we”, say “Let's”. It's almost a command, which goes to the subconscious, meaning we should do it. So, let's go out, when are you free.

So, there's an heir of confidence, women like a man who's attractive, who's at ease with himself, who can command attention, who won't be passive. But if maybe you're not quite so sure, just be charming, warm, get the woman talking, ask her questions, think about the sort of things she wants to talk about, get her talking, put her at her ease and see where the conversation goes from there. So, you're establishing rapport.

And then, if you want to ask her out, ask her out, if you want to ask her directions, then good luck to you. And when you're done, say “Look, that's great. I look forward to seeing you, I've got to go.

I look forward to seeing you on this date”. Always try to be the one that ends the call. Don't hang on nervously, waiting for her to dictate things, you take control and things are more likely to happen. .