How To Choose A Relationship Therapist

My name is Michelle Bassam. I'm a counselling psychologist and also the clinical manager for Harley Therapy. Today, I'm here to talk to you about different aspects of therapy and how therapy can help you as individuals, or as couples.

Today, I am going to tell you some basic details about relationship therapy, and how to obtain, hopefully, a therapist that is good and beneficial to you as an individual. It is important when you are looking for a relationship therapist to find someone who is highly qualified, has years of experience and actually is able to communicate well with you - you as a couple. If you are embarking on therapy as a same-sex couple, please make sure that your therapist is used to working in this way, and that she or he is happy to actually see same-sex couples.

In this day and age, this should not be a problem in any way. There are many reasons for coming into therapy. It may be that the relationship is actually breaking down, due to lack of communication possibly.

Or it may be that one of the members of the couple has depression, or something quite detrimental to the actual relationship itself. Also, it can just be purely down to stresses at work, or even to money issues that in this day and age unfortunately do cause many, many heartaches. It is important that when you come into therapy, that you are both happy to embark on this process.

So, discussing this in your own environment at home - that therapy is the right thing for you - can be a very difficult subject to approach. Try not to approach the subject when you have just had possibly a slight disagreement or argument. Try and actually discuss it when you're both feeling calm and able to feel that you are able to then go into something nice and positive.

The therapist should be able to discuss with you many issues and deal with your presenting problems. During the very early stages of therapy, it is important that you actually see and feel held by the therapist, very comfortable, and that she is very private and you feel that the confidentiality issues are being met to the highest standards. She will not give you answers; she will help you discuss things through as a couple - as two individuals in your own right, bringing your issues together. .